“HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE, NOT A RESULT. NOTHING WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY UNTIL YOU CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY. NO PERSON WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY UNLESS YOU DECIDE TO BE HAPPY. YOUR HAPPINESS WILL NOT COME TO YOU. IT CAN ONLY COME FROM YOU”           …..Ralph Harslon


 

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So for the better part of this year I’ve been really unhappy and it’s school related. I won’t say depressed per say but something very close to it and I have been going about with a long face. This has no doubt affected so many things and in fact almost ruined my relationship with some of my friends until a few weeks back when I decided I was going to be HAPPY REGARDLESS as I really can’t remember being genuinely happy any time this year, okay maybe I’m exaggerating, I might have had a few moments but not just enough.

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I’ve come to realize that happiness is intentional. Even though sometimes, things don’t go as planned, you can make a conscious effort, more like a decision to be happy and look towards the positive aspect of whatever it is that has happened. Major reason being that you actually deserve it. Everyone deserves to be happy. I also learnt to move on and face what is ahead because worrying would not help. Well… it hasn’t helped anybody I know of in the past.

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striped pants

Forgiving myself was one thing I had to do. In fact, this is an important step.most times when some things happen, we tend to blame ourselves for these things. not keeping in mind that some of these things are out of our control. this was the last step i took which made me unhappy for long. In fact that should have been the first step.

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I have however decided to make conscious effort to be happy regardless. It is from within and not just from smiling or having a good laugh. We all have that one thing that gives us joy. Find it and do it. Make sure you however do not attach your source of happiness to anyone as they are only human and hence, may fail us. Check out my post here on how to enjoy your own company.

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STRIPED PANTS:CUSTOM MADE BY MUMMY MARY(MY TAILOR)

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Welcome back love.
Yes to positive thoughts. Stay happy
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Awww. Welcome back dear. I’m so excited for you. In this life, happiness is key! Please continue staying happy regardless of what situation you may find yourself. Your situation beside someone else’s is just like a picture of an ant beside an elephant! Please be consistent with your blogging ehn, it’d lead you somewhere great one day! Xoxo.

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Yetunde. I appreciate you so much you have no idea. Being happy is key. Positive vibes all the way ohh. I’ll type to be consistent

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I hope to be consistent dear. Thanks for your support always

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So glad you’re back. Worry doesn’t take away the troubles of tomorrow, it only takes away the peace of today. Welcome bae!

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Thanks Bookee. I’ll definitely worry less

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I’m happy you found a way to be happy for yourself. You are too beautiful to be sad. It is not allowed. Welcome back, honey.

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Joyyy that’s what I thought too. Thanks dear

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It’s great to see you back finally! …
Staying happy is key, because being unhappy doesn’t really solve the problem it just adds to it.

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Ikr. I wonder why it took me so long to realise that!

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Ikr babe. Thanks love

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Well said.. Being happy is a key to success..

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Major key Adamu. Thanks for stopping by

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nice one dear.. hmm be happy “regardless “..deep. its actually not easy to put depression aside..u know wat i mean.. well, to other readers, be happy not bcz everything is good buh cz u can see the good in everything..welcome bk once again @thetosintoge.. waiting for more post

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Thanks Opsal

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Tosin. I am so happy that you are back and will be active. I can totally relate to what you wrote. We need not to allow situations determine our happiness.
I love that wig and I’m coming to steal it soon.

Welcome back!

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Hehe. Thanks Tife! I really hope to be consistent and active. I can make one for you if you want it

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Welcome back Tosin. I am still on my own blog break, no motivation yet or maybe I am just lazy. Schools and their wahala, I totally relate. It’s good to know you got your happiness back. I love your outfit, most the pants. Smiles till next time remain happy

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I will definitely remain happy Labake. Thanks for stopping back and I hope you come back to the blogosphere soon.

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Welcome back Tosin So true about hapiness being intentional. School work and not being able to meet the expectations of others have weighted me down earlier this year but I had to realise that it didn’t matter and my happiness came first. This post is so informative on the concept of happiness
Welcome back again!!! Ohhh nd that buble top , the trousers and wig….i want!!

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Annie dear! I know right!! Thanks for stopping by boo

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Happiness is key… Ps : I love the entire outfit.

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Thanks babe. Yes it is oh

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I’m glad u back dear. Yass to being happy and don’t forget to stop by the blog http://www.adagirl.com.ng

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Thanks babes. Off to your blog right noww

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I’m so glad you’re back on here Tosin, I’m extremely glad sef and nobody honestly deserves to be unhappy. This is one thing I’ve come to realize.
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Nobody deserves to be unhappy oh. Thanks babe
You pushed me to come back and I owe you one

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I’ve had depression struggles too. Depression is real but I got out of it. I found joy in Jesus which totally helped me. The kind of joy not even coming from where I am or what’s happening around me but joy from within. Welcome back tosin, stay strong. Remember all things are working for your good.
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Joy from Jesus Christ is incomparable and yes all things are working together for our good. Thanks so much babes.

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Welcome back babes. We’ve all been in your shoes at one point or the other and it can be really be difficult to get out of a dark place. I’m glad you’ve found happiness even if we’re all living in a loveless world.
Looking forward to greater content from you.
Enjoy the rest of your weekend

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Can’t wait to dish out the contents. Thanks babe.

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Yaaay the tosin toge z baq finally missed you z an understatement.
About d post, U’re so apt, happiness z you, happiness z what u make of it, yes pple can make you happy, things can make you happy but when dese things or dese pple aren’t making you happy you have to make urself happy, I’ve bin in a similar situation, nd all ot took was self-determination to make myself happy no Matter what nd it worked.
M so glad U’re baq.
Ur outfit

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Thanks babe for your support. I appreciate you and determination to remain happy is keyy

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This is so true! Welcome back hun.

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Anu thanks

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Cheers to staying happy and realising that worrying ain’t gonna change the past nor solve today’s, tomorrow’s problems.
Do what you can do and hope/pray for the best. Also, please don’t let any situation take your happiness from you. It’s yours to keep

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Happiness is mine to keep. Yess. Thanks Michael

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Glad to have you back, Tosin. Happiness is really important and it’s all that matters. If what you’re doing doesn’t make you happy, take a step back and reevaluate.

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Spot on! Happiness is all that matters. Thanks Collins

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*pokes you for leaving in the first place* * hugs you screaming “yay!!!! ” for coming back* lol! Guess who missed you? Yeah everybody except me, winks*
Talking about depression, girl!…it was my food for a long time,, talking 5 years issh kinda long. Errrm, basically there is a source…. So knowing the source helps but that is not enough to get one out. In fact, it could plunge one into a deeper depression state if not managed well in my opinion, at least in my case, that is what happened. I became aware but I couldn’t help myself. I already feel like I’m typing too much, na my blog?! Haba!!!
Lol, OK, I found the most amazing church to fellowship and they constantly stirred me towards becoming better then I started wanting to be better and do better…. Started looking to do what I love more and blah blah blah…OK bye.

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He hehe Fridaws. You missed me joor because I missed you too oh. Glad you found ” family” because that is important as well. Pls type a

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Awwn..welcome back friendship mi…biko remain happy..you owe that much to yourself..

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Ikr
Thanks boo

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Hey babe I’m super glad you have got your blogging groove back…….i love you and keep been inspired

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Thanks Fifehanmi. God bless you

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I’m happy you’re back and thank God you’ve chosen to be happy, because of final year stress I was terribly sick and now I have an health issue thank God it’s nothing too serious, don’t ever let education weigh you down because when you’re done you’ll find out that school does not even really matter well unless you’re truly passionate about your course, now I’m talking too much.
All in all, take time with yourself. I’m proud of you

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